At The Unforgettable Man, we want to help you on your journey to be a classic and timeless gentleman. You may be asking yourself where some of those classic rules of gentlemanliness fit in a modern and rushed world. Are the days of chivalry gone? Would it be considered sexist? What is the proper way to treat the modern woman? These are all fitting questions to be asked and thought about. I believe that those things that make the unforgettable man will never be out of style or even old school. They are timeless and will stand the test of changing styles and attitudes. This is the case with opening a door for a lady.
I recently read about a story that appeared on the Today Show, in which the question was put forth to women about whether or not they wanted a man to open the door for them. In the survey of 4200 voters a whopping 91% said yes, that they still wanted a man to open the door for them. Gents, this tells us we need to be on our A-game! Ladies still expect us to be respectful and show devotion through simple acts of chivalry, like opening a door.
When do we open the door? Should we always open the door? What if the door swings in?
When do you open the door for a lady? Well, anytime there is a door. This can require a little bit of planning to try to arrive at the door just before she does. Don’t make a big deal or run to the door. Be cool and be calm. You don’t want to look like a fool when you are intending to look like prince charming. If she happens to open the door, all is not lost. Simply hold the door and then follow behind her. If it is a car door then again hold it open until she is seated and is all set. Then close the door for her.
Should we always open the door? The best answer to this is it depends on the lady. If she is offended by the offering, then take her queue. If, on the other hand, she likes the idea of a man opening a door for a lady, then by all means always open the door for her. In the story from the Today show there were many women who said they had been married many years and their husbands always opened the door for them. They said how special that made them feel. I can second that. My wife tells me how much she likes it when I open the door for her.
What if the door swings open? While we don’t see too many of these, it can happen that you will come to the door and need to push it open. What do you do? Go on in and hold it open for a lady to pass through.
The biggest tip here is just to be cool about it all. Don’t make a big deal. The unforgettable man has a humbleness about him and does not look for everyone’s gratitude. Instead, he will go and do in a quiet manner. If you already open the door for a lady, then good for you! We hope you will leave a comment with your experiences. If you don’t do this regularly, or at all, then go out and try it today! Leave a comment if you have a great experience.